I would be a liar if I said I always saw the blessings. Most honest parents would tell you there are days you feel like tapping out, but somehow some way you don’t. You somehow muster the strength to get through the meltdowns of a toddler, the attitude of a tween or the defiance of the whole tribe.
In fact, I just had one of those days. It started with missing car keys, well they weren’t technically missing. They made their way into my husband’s pocket, and my husband and his pockets were unable to leave work. So, that meant calling the school’s “absent line” to let them know my daughter would not be attending that day. In case you’re wondering, I told the truth.
I was actually really calm about the situation because my daughter and son had been fighting allergy flare ups all week. A little rest would be perfect for both of them. Well, cue the screaming toddler because I didn’t let him talk on the phone, close the fridge door or pour his own cereal. The list continues, but I’ll spare you because I’m sure you’ve been there.
I can guarantee you I don’t look that good and my house will never be that white. There are days that I feel guilty because maybe I’m not good enough at being a mother. Some days when my toddler is napping, I struggle to find the energy to complete the responsibilities of running a business. I fight the urge to nap, grab a few bites that I deem as “lunch” and I keep on trucking.
But with all that, somehow we find a way. I think what we forget is that it’s okay to feel like tapping out every now and then. It’s okay if we need to take time for ourselves to refuel and breathe. It is okay if we don’t immediately see the blessings behind the mess. It doesn’t make us horrible parents, it makes us human.
We get challenged by little versions of ourselves, but an unsolicited hug or kiss brings us peace. So if you’re having one of those days where you feel like you need a moment, take it. Put the little one in the crib, tell the older ones that you need 10 minutes, whatever you need to do to breathe and relieve the guilt and doubt that you weren’t cut out for this. You got this!
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