Do you often hear, “I’m bored!” from your child? I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “Boredom is a choice”. When your child finds himself bored, it’s his responsibility to find a solution. How can we teach our children to learn to make his own choices, to be proactive? I have 4 easy-to-learn steps on how to be proactive.
4 Easy Steps on How to Be Proactive
It’s Your Choice
Learning to manage responsibilities and choices in a timely manner takes practice. It’s not that it’s hard, it’s getting a routine down that will take a bit more time. Consistency is key to be responsible with time. Doing homework or chores first before enjoying playing a game or hanging out with friends is the first step in making a good choice. Take the initiative to make good choices!
When you’re bored, and can’t think of anything to do for yourself, help someone else. My son loves to hold the door open for everyone. If you are across the parking lot, he will stand there holding the door for you. I love seeing his face light up when he is receiving “thank you’s” and given a pat on the back. You can see how proud he is that he is helping people. Teach your child that helping others is very fulfilling and valuable way to spend his time.
Do Something New
A part of growing up is learning new things. Sometimes, even if those things scare us, we should teach our children to try something new. When I was a child I was terribly shy and did not make friends easily. After my son was born, I promised myself that I would raise him to try new things. I wanted him to make good choices, not to be afraid to ask questions or seek a new friend. He is a very social 7-year-old who is not afraid to talk in front of people, makes friends easily, and enjoys trying new things. He inspires me to try to new things!
Believe in Yourself
Having the courage to be proactive is an important trait. Work together with your child and identify an unhealthy habit you want to work on together. This is a great way to be proactive together. Let’s say you choose not exercising enough as your unhealthy habit. Together make up a plan with a start date and end date. You can also include progress check-in dates too. Researchers say it takes 21 days to start a new habit, so let your child know it is possible to achieve this. Don’t get discouraged, just believe in yourself!
Learning about being proactive is from the story “Bored! Bored! Bored!”, Sammy Squirrel complains he is so bored to Allie’s Granny. She asks him, “Well, isn’t that your fault? You’re in charge of having fun, no somebody else.” Sammy thinks about it, and realizes he is in charge of making his own fun! He chooses to make his friend, Allie, a present to make her feel better. This story has such wonderful lessons and provides an excellent learning experience for child and parents alike.
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